| Hope I
know I'll never forget or never forgive, what we had has gone forever, yet I know
in my heart that he loves me, but I trusted and look where trust got me! Often
these people know the person they are chasing is married, so they are no better
than the cheating spouse themselves. He loves me, but my love is dead, I have
switched off - gone. I hope I will feel again. 
Hope
is the expectation that something outside of ourselves, something or someone external,
is going to come to our rescue and we will live happily ever after.
Author:
Dr. Robert Anthony, American educator |
Hopeless He
ran off to her. He says he wants to come back. How can I believe him ever again?
I sit , wait and pray for my old life but will it ever be the same again? Can
I find real intimacy with a betrayer - a person who would do this to me - a person
who vowed to love me forever - a person I gave my whole heart to and always got
this selfish attitude of its all about me, me, me. I just don't know.
I was this happy bubbly person
confident in the love & fidelity of my husband, now in the couple of months
since I've lost about 20 lbs., my hair is falling out & I'm so sad all the
time. People say I look good because I've lost all this weight & ask if I've
been on a diet if they only knew. My heart is truly broken I don't know how to
fix it. Thank you for letting me get that off my chest.
Guilt Yes
there is guilt from booby trappings in my house, cell phone calls to monitoring
devices.
Why do
I have to feel guilty when she is to blame for the lack of trust I feel in my
heart.
There is no security - only in tomorrow.
Sadness I
caught my husband red-handed cheating on the internet with a woman from overseas
and a woman locally, he felt it was all innocent because it was the "net".
One woman could not understand why he was NOT married because he was so romantic.
One he proposed to, the other helped him find religion. He chronicled everything
we did together to
the woman.
Fear
I fear he is dating or exchanging emails. How can I live with the fear every time
he is on the computer. Now
I feel like a cat with a plump mouse.
My
significant other has joined a phone dating service. He says he just "wants
to listen". He better fear what I will say if this happens again.
Love I
am very disappointed of him, I dont believe or trust him anymore.....I am trying
to work things out because I still love him, and I see he is very sorry, but it
is very difficult.
Weeks
later I am developing my roll of film and she is in a picture on my couch holding
my cat. The picture was dated 05/06, on my birthday. He told me he had not seen
her since 12/9. Now I am depressed, angry, insecure, and suspicious. How do I
cope? I still love the ---.
I am a good woman, I was faithful
for the entire time, I loved him 100% and I was ready to be a good wife and mother
to his baby. Now we are having a boy and now my son will not have a real chance
of having real family and its like I hate him and I hate myself because I could
of been having my first born with someone who truly loved me and cared for my
well being. He says that he loves me but how can someone love you and betray you
so coldly and the fact that he would have unprotected sex with another female
or females and come back home to me is the worse feeling in the world. I truly
feel like the world is against me and I did nothing to deserve what he has done.
After
a few weeks of swearing that she had had no more contact and that she was trying
to work things out with me she had a class to go to one night. I logged on and
checked her email and found one with the subject line "I Love You".
It was a very graphic email about how much she loved this guy and then a more
graphic description of what she enjoyed about their sexual relationship. It occurred
to me that true love is something she should want to share with everyone.
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Anger I
know that my husband is regretful and wants our marriage to work. Two years ago
I felt very insecure, non-trusting and it took awhile to feel secure and trusting
of him again. Now, all that insecurity and non-trusting has come back to haunt
me. I know my relationship with her will never be the same, but I wish she'd apologize
or something to let me know she regrets it like my husband. She still lives in
the neighborhood and our kids occasionally still play together, but I feel I need
answers. I'm distracted by the thought and have such anxiety I'm not sure how
to feel or what to do.
Don't
know where to start. All I can say is I hate waking up every day because I know
that once I'm up be in the morning during
work or just any time of the day.
My mind starts messing with me about my wife's affair. The hate that I have for
this one person who played,and used my wife for his pleasure. The betrayel of
my stupid wife and every thing else that comes along with this shit. I feel that
I am being punished, and tormented for something I never did. I feel that I just
can't go on. It's been a year since I found out and now this hate, and anger is
driving me nuts.
Isolation
I refuse
to make an issue out of it again--lately, he wonders what's wrong with me and
I feel as though I really can't trust him if he can't come clean after being asked
if he had been looking at women online again. As a footnote to this, his father
cheated on his mother--his father told me about this right in front of my husband--and
his father will try to refer to "blondes" and other women while he's
out with us anywhere. Is this a case of "like father, like son"? I don't
know.
Grief I
was so ready to trust again, to believe I could be so happy and feel so alive
but she had to destroy what little faith I had all over again. Will I trust again
- perhaps. Life is never the same because of her ego.
My
husband betrayed me. I feel that I have died inside. I am grieving the loss of
our commitment, trust, love, and our openness. Now I must deal with secrets, deception,
brokeness. I grieve for the life I have lost, the trust that is gone, the openness
that is closed, and the purity of my married life. These are gone forever. Life
as I have known it for 28 years has died.
Porn
- He did, eventually, admit to this; but I am just "over- reacting for millions
of men in this country look at porn." I felt angry and betrayed. When I confronted
him he was very defensive and said some very hurtful things to me. He called me
names like "fat ass". I am overweight but he has never acted as though
it is a problem. He says he is sorry now and didn't mean what he said. The problem
is I can hardly even look at him now. I feel like he is dissatisfied with me and
our marriage. I am considering divorce since I don't think I will ever feel the
same now.
I
asked my wife what is going on she said "its only a game". I told her
that the comments made me feel more than a little uncomfortable. It was around
this time that she started telling me I was "always up her butt" and
"she needs time to herself to play". She would get very upset if I was
to visit her Simulated house. It was around this time that she also told me that
she wasn't in love with me anymore. My heart nearly stopped. My wife had been
having an online affair with someone from the game. My words of wisdom would be
this... The online games are not "just games". She has since been heartbroken
by the whole thing and still does not know if she loves me.
He
comes to us, along with his emails "I miss you so much it hurts my heart
with every breath I take", and "I miss being with you", a cd with
"their" song, and cell phone conversations to this same lady we're to
leave behind. He hasn't quite given her up yet, I confront him, and he says we're
just friends.
I am so hurt, angry, shocked,
just a wreck but I am doing the best possible. I have supportive friends who really
care about me who are helping me through this. But the pain from this is overwhelming
at times and since I found out six days ago I have been doing all I can to cope.
I never thought something like that would happen to me. He lied about many things.
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