We
forgive people for our own benefit. We put things behind us, declare at least
to ourselves that we no longer expect to be repaid for the debt, and allow ourselves
to move on. We can forgive people that are passed away or with whom we no longer
have any possible contact. We don't have to tell them that we have forgiven them. Reconciliation
is beyond that and involved some reestablishment of trust. That's generally something
that has to be earned through actions, not words, over a serious period of time
and is not compatible with lies, deception, or being misled by not knowing or
understanding relevant pertinent facts. Sometimes it just doesn't make sense to
reconcile. I have a person I have forgiven but can't reconcile because I am still
concerned about how they might treat some of my dependents if I had a relationship
with them again. Leaving
oneself open for injury is generally a bad and some might say stupid thing to
do. You can forgive a snake for biting you, because they were just doing what
snakes do, but to give the snake an opportunity to bite you again under similar
circumstances would be foolish unless you knew that the snake had been de-fanged
or otherwise controlled. Courtesty:
Group Member - thank you.
The
Basic Practice of Forgiveness from Spiritual Rx - Embrace
in your heart everyone you need to forgive, including yourself. Why
the spiritual practice of forgiveness may be for you: We
all know the obvious symptoms that could be relieved by forgiveness — feeling
so wounded that we want revenge, constant brooding over a long list of petty grievances,
feeling so guilty we don't know how to approach someone we have offended, worry
that the hurt could happen again. Bitterness and stubbornness can also be signs
that forgiveness is called for, especially when these attitudes are associated
with a need to be recognized as the one who is right. In
contrast to these limiting behaviors, which usually erect walls between ourselves
and others, forgiveness is freeing. It means that we can move out of our previous
position and move on with our lives. Best of all, it enables us to be reconciled
with our spouse and with God so that once again we feel part of the greater community
of the spiritual life.
Spiritual
RX : Prescriptions for Living a Meaningful Life- click here for more
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