What if Your Spouse Doesn't Love you Any More?

 

What Do the Words “I Don’t Love You Anymore” Really Mean?
By Nancy Wasson

Have you been blindsided by an unhappy spouse who suddenly announced, “I don’t love you anymore”? If so, then you know that these words can split a marriage wide open, along with the heart of the partner who may not have suspected that anything was wrong.

Like most spouses in your situation, you may be confused and struggling to understand what those five ominous words "I don't love you anymore" really mean. Let’s look at four of the possibilities:

1. Your Spouse May Have Confused Feelings

The most common situation is that the partner has doubts about his feelings. A more accurate wording might be: “I don’t think that I love you anymore, but I’m not absolutely sure.”

If this is what your spouse means, you can often use this doubt, even if it’s only a very small doubt, to buy time for your marriage. Your spouse may be more likely to agree to go to marriage counseling while he takes additional time to determine if he really wants to leave the marriage or not.

Rather than framing an appeal to your spouse as doing you a favor, say instead, “Please don’t throw away your investment of time in our marriage yet.” This request reminds him that he’s losing something if he walks away.

Don't give up. There's still hope for you even if your spouse:

Refuses to go to marriage counseling,

Isn't "in love" with you any longer,

Wants a marriage separation,

Doesn't know if he or she wants to stay married,

Has asked for a divorce, or

Is already living separately from you.

Help him recall all the energy, hard work, and dreams he has invested in the marriage so far. He may conclude that it just makes good sense for him to wait until he’s absolutely sure about what he wants to do. Read more...

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If you don't invest some quality time now in taking a true, honest and truthful look at the state of your relationship, you could stay stuck in this place of indecision for a very long time.

It's amazing to us how many people are content to stay stuck in this place of indecision about their relationship--wasting so much precious time when they could be experiencing an incredible relationship filled with love, passion and joy.

We encourage you to take an honest look at your situation and feel how much pain you've been feeling about this relationship.